"Happiness is like an orgasm. It's a lot better if you don't have to fake it."
I would NEVER fake an orgasm! It would be completely pointless for all parties involved. To pretend to experience pleasure in the bedroom has always seemed absurd to me.
Yet, I have pretended to be happy in other situations. Why?
I've faked happiness to avoid hurting others. I've faked happiness because I thought I 'should be' happy with a given circumstance. I've faked happiness because I desperately wanted to feel happy even though I was not. I've faked happiness because it seemed easier than admitting to myself that I wasn't. Admitting unhappiness means having a responsibility to change and that can be daunting.
The older I get the easier it is for me to admit when I'm not happy without judging the feeling or why I feel it. It has become easier because the price you pay for faking it is too great...anxiety, depression, physical ailments, regret and missed opportunity to name a few. Stifling your true feelings is costly.
I have to remind myself that feelings are valuable tools that exist to help us. Feelings help us navigate what works for us and what does not work for us. Feelings, even uncomfortable ones, are our ally not our enemy.
Are you faking your happiness? It's time to get honest about your feelings. There is no need to fake your happiness and for pleasure's sake, please don't fake your orgasms! As always, I'm hear to help you create a life you love in and out of the bedroom. Message me at firstname.lastname@example.org for a free coaching consultation.
In health and happiness,